Getting to that place where, "this sucks" plus, "I need help," and doing the reaching out and committing to doing some other guy’s idead—that’s the hard part. The rest is just follow through. You have a bunch of folks who really want you to succeed. Grab onto somebody living the life they want, do what they suggest, if only for a bit. My sponsor has offered to refund my misery if I’d like. AA has worked for a lot of us.