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Eelroots t1_j8whwu6 wrote

Mate, every day is day one. You don't have to fix your past,just start your future.

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alpacasarebadsingers t1_j8wosam wrote

To add some practical advice to this, go learn a trade like electrician or plumber. Get some skill you can get solid work from. You’ll be ok. No one is going to care about your history when they need a pipe leak fixed.

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adventuresjudethecat t1_j8xcakf wrote

My stepson is currently doing the electrician apprentice and it is great. They pay you to go to school, and you get paid decent while you are doing it. It does take a while, but he is older than you and just started it a few years ago. He even had to go through the pre-apprentice part. He has a wife and kid and is making it work.

Look at it this way. In 5 years do you want to be a certified tradesman or do you want to be at the same place you are now. You are going to get 5 years old, so just think what do you want to be at that point.

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MiamiMedStudent t1_j8xwdrk wrote

Had the same problem as this guy. I became a plumber and loved it. Then my mentor died from fentanyl overdose. Which ended my plumbing apprenticeship. Life is not absolute. There are no yes or no answers to deep nuanced questions. First things first OP is aware enough and thats the first step. I believe in him

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Eelroots t1_j8xo96f wrote

Electrician is the next big trade skill to look for. Imagine the horde of tech they will need for the incoming electric car transition.

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alpacasarebadsingers t1_j8y15x1 wrote

I have a friend who got burned out from coding. He got his electrician papers and started working at data centers because they need electricians on site for emergencies. Since few emergencies happen, he has 80% free time. You know what he does in His free time? Codes games. Funny guy, I tell ya.

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spicyystuff t1_j8zkeqv wrote

It's more fun to code without the pressure of deadlines and not having to adhere to all the requirements a client wants for their app/game

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sgtbrecht t1_j903uw2 wrote

Makes sense actually. Those people who does coding outside work as a SWE are truly passionate about the field. For most of us, that’s going to lead to burnout. It no longer becomes fun if you make it your hobby and a full time job.

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That-Patience-4339 t1_j8y2uqo wrote

There are many skilled electricians that make upwards of $50 an hour. It's a great career choice especially if one likes solving problems and understanding systems and bettering the lives of others.

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zacboggz t1_j8yuyti wrote

Get a CDl. 10 week course and plenty of good paying jobs that will let you be home every day. I worked in LTL and had a 9-6 m-f schedule. School is cheap and pay is good

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canucksaram t1_j8z4cjk wrote

What is a CDI and what is LTL? Thank you for sharing.

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zacboggz t1_j8zc3tk wrote

A commercial driver’s license. Let’s you drive truck. Great job with some freedom too. LTL is less than truckload. Basically like delivering for UPS but pallets to businesses. Shorter driving areas and home every night.

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luckysevensampson t1_j904pi5 wrote

Or go back to university, to study something you love. That’s what I did, and it worked out wonderfully.

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ScubaRat889 t1_j90moie wrote

What did you wind up studying, thanks in advance for your reply.

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JonnyP222 t1_j8xb6b4 wrote

I was going to say some flavor of this too. But I'll just give them step one to achieve this. And this is for anyone that feels this way. Stop looking at your past like a failure or waste. Accept it as part of your life and stop comparing everything/anything you do to what you were like before for validation.

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MiamiMedStudent t1_j8xwndh wrote

This is what I needed to see. Even if I know it already, sometimes shit gets drowned out when everything comes at you fast. If I had money I'd 💰 drop a bag on ya . Thanks

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JonnyP222 t1_j8yi8jy wrote

All good. I am not here for the money. ;)

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Temporary-Pain-8098 t1_j96mljk wrote

Whatever got you to the point that you realize you need to do something better was the time and experience you needed to learn. Not time lost, but learning what didn’t work for you. Your commitment to find something better will get you to a point that you do enjoy. Sometimes the best way forward is to turn around.

Talk to many people that are where you want to be, and find out how they did it.

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xPlus2Minus1 t1_j8y3d3x wrote

This is so foreign to my brain I can't even comprehend it

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PokerSpaz01 t1_j8zftl6 wrote

It really is this. One of my friends was a homeless musician from a good college. And just bumming around until 33. Went to mba school and now is a product manager at Google and makes more than me. I am like wtf. But it’s a pretty inspiring story to me.

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HopliteJr5000 t1_j94weqm wrote

I’m not convinced that you need to get motivated here because motivation is fleeting and throughout the past few years you’ve gotten traction but have bailed. I wonder if the problem isn’t getting motivated but staying motivated, or just being OK not being motivated but doing what you need to do anyway. Understanding for example that you might need to work somewhere and find things you enjoy at work or skills you’re building while acknowledging it’s not perfect, and using spare time to pursue passions like DJing or EDM production.

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