Jaded-Moose983 t1_jbp2eer wrote on March 10, 2023 at 5:09 PM

Reply to comment by 420Deez in LPT request: how to become a less judgey person? by newmama1991

I agree with the comment that judging is normal. Every creature makes judgements about every situation it's in. Trying to completely turn that off might make a person more susceptible to risks.

I think it's more important to learn not to act on every little judgement that comes to mind.

newmama1991 OP t1_jbpbghm wrote on March 10, 2023 at 6:07 PM

Perhaps that's the nuance that I mean then 🤔 I feel like I judge negatively to quickly, without knowing the story or facts, for example. I'd like to keep a more open mind.

Jaded-Moose983 t1_jbqxqv4 wrote on March 11, 2023 at 12:45 AM

What I try to do is to find something to compliment. "What a beautiful blouse." "That tattoo is great, where'd you get it?" "What an awesome car!" That type of thing. It helps keep me thinking positively about people and I'd like for people to feel good about themselves if they interact with me.

BTW, your ability to express yourself is fantastic. I wonder if you are a writer.

newmama1991 OP t1_jbrm025 wrote on March 11, 2023 at 4:08 AM

Thanks so much! I am not a writer but my husband has complimented me on it before. I'm not sure why, haha. English is not my first language.

Your tip is wonderful and a great exercise to try. In combination with not responding on your first thought. I have ADHD so it can be difficult sometimes.