We all have automatic thoughts that we cannot control, we can however notice them and challenge them.

What I like to do is when I notice my brain creating a judgement or prejudice against someone, to create a story that’s the opposite. For example, when someone cuts me off they could be a jerk or they could be on the way to see their dying grandmother for the first time and need to make it to the hospital. A person steps out in traffic without looking could be an idiot but they could be distracted by a text saying their dog got hit by a car.

I find that the longer I catch my immediate thoughts and create stories like this, the kinder that initial thought becomes (we’re talking years here) the very first step is noticing it happening, the second is finding a way to be kinder in thought.