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sekhmet1010 t1_jd75ipu wrote

Reply to comment by Spitfir4 in LPT: don't assume dishonesty or malice. You and others' lives will be much happier. by Alcoraiden

Same.

My mum always thinks people are trying to hurt her and bother her. It just makes her agonise so much that i have learnt to think a bit differently.

Assume innocence but even if someone is being a bit malicious, just ignore it. It if actually starts bothering me, then i address the thing head on and ask the person if they meant to hurt me. They will obviously say no, but most probably, won't do it again. If they still persist, i cut those people out of my life.

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Spitfir4 t1_jd76b2s wrote

I think this is pretty solid approach. My mum is always the victim as well and it just seems to torment her and she doesn't want to take control of the situation.

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