mercurysnowman OP t1_iu97yy3 wrote on October 29, 2022 at 3:22 PM

Reply to comment by WickerBag in LPT Request: how to deal with an emotionally draining friend I have to see on a daily basis by mercurysnowman

this is an excellent strategy! and once I'm out of uni and have my own place and job I'm also going to become that cranky grown-ass woman. thank you.

mosquito_motel t1_iu9gn9r wrote on October 29, 2022 at 4:25 PM

This is a universal struggle. Sometimes it can help to point out that "venting" is more like "whining without solutions" and no one wants to be whined to, so keep directing them into "problem-solving". Stay strong!

[deleted] t1_iu9uwld wrote on October 29, 2022 at 6:05 PM

Alfred Adler used to say that to his patients, when someone is saying poor me, or they’re bad he’d just ask: what are you going to do about it? It’s the perfect way to answer because it snaps them out of it.

Hole-In-Six t1_iuboo82 wrote on October 30, 2022 at 2:27 AM

That sounds like a real bad therapist. Imagine telling your cardiologist that your heart feels week and he says “sucks to be you“.

[deleted] t1_iuc7ple wrote on October 30, 2022 at 5:39 AM

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rampartsblueglare t1_iubpzip wrote on October 30, 2022 at 2:38 AM

Was in this situation last year and one day I asked the lady where our 3rd coworker was, always late 5 minutes before start. She told me that lady had kids and had to get them to school. And I said hmm thats convenient me too. So I began coming 5 minutes late like lady #3 and the complainer had to go talk to someone else in the building and not me. Stopped working for free and stopped listening to mayhem. I'd avoid energy vampires if at all possible

BAT123456789 t1_iub1zh7 wrote on October 29, 2022 at 11:21 PM

The strategy I find works well, primarily with men, is to reply, "Aw, does your pussy hurt? Does it?" Either they laugh or they shut up. Either way, they don't burden you again.