> if I am inviting people over and hosting, then I want to provide for them

I couldn't agree more. If you know full well you've got a vegetarian/vegan in a small group and you're inviting them over as guests; it's pretty rude to serve steak. But if you're serving the same group five-nights running, four of them are going to want meat options.

I was speaking more for work functions, kids birthdays etc... where you don't want to have a bowl of peanuts in the room if someone carries an EpiPen; but nor do you want to pander to everyone's "sensitivities" and lifestyle choices.