yabsterr t1_j0izp33 wrote on December 17, 2022 at 12:15 AM

Reply to comment by Rysline in Lpt request-How to speak politely by Accomplished_Low_265

I got what you meant, and in a way 'our people' (the Dutch) are very much alike. We are fairly direct and just thank you ('bedankt' in Dutch) is enough to thank someone. You're welcome (alsjeblieft) is enough when you give something.

I think the alternative motives also play a role here. I just think it shouldn't be that way.

shouldco t1_j0jkd2k wrote on December 17, 2022 at 3:07 AM

I think it comes from being "extra polite" in English tends to mean some amount of flattery is getting thrown in. Which is also a great technique to start manipulating people. If someone comes up to me and says "excuse me sir, you look like a kind good hearted young man..." they aren't about to ask what subway stop they need to get off at they are about to tell me how their mother is sick and they need $10 for a bus home.