I can't help you with your interpersonal issue, but there are some problems that you can throw money at.

Dishwashers, robot vacuums, kitchen organizers, a dishpan for the few things that really benefit from a soak, an extra laundry basket dedicated for towels, trash and recycling bins in every room, power tub scrubbing brush, for most cleaning nemeses there's a tool to make it easier.

Except for clutter. You're on your own for that one ;-)