I was in the same situation as you. How my wife and I got me to improve my perception is instead of just picking up after me, she’d grab me and point me to an area and ask what’s wrong here. You need to both go into this with a lot of humility to make it work.

That conscious checking is what you should be doing all the time, but initially getting help with figuring out where something needs attending to helps accelerate the process. It will initially take a little more effort on their part, but it will prevent them from shouldering the domestic burden for the rest of your relationship