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greenknight884 t1_j1xpc0h wrote

Reply to comment by skunkadelic in Kids realize what you did for them and appreciate it once they have kids of their own. Spouses or SOs don’t realize or appreciate it until you’re gone. by Yourfaceis-23

And plenty of kids are forever ungrateful to their parents

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Passionofawriter t1_j1y395e wrote

And plenty of parents don't deserve to be appreciated.

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isusernamethistaken t1_j20kept wrote

Lol I meant to post that on the original post didn't mean to post it as a response to this comment 😅🤦🏻‍♀️ my b dude. Some parents really don't deserve appreciation.

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isusernamethistaken t1_j1zuqg7 wrote

This is a horrible take based on your own personal experience

Edit: this was meant to be a comment on the original post, not a response to that comment..my bad.

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hhta2020 t1_j1zvnnr wrote

Nah that's just reality for a lot of people

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Jaimzell t1_j1zxp51 wrote

How can you possibly disagree with that statement? I feel like that's one of the coldest most agreeable takes I’v heard on this website. Regardless of what their personal experience might be.

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PsychologicalCod3712 t1_j201xqi wrote

It's just the reality for plenty of folks. Calling it a horrible take is definitely the horrible take.

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mix_420 t1_j20fqkp wrote

So you think abusive parents should be appreciated then??? Because that’s the only thing that I can read from this.

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No_Conversations t1_j20epg4 wrote

some parents literally sell their children into sex trafficking tell me again that all parents must be appreciated

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isusernamethistaken t1_j20l0zw wrote

The amount of hate I got for this accidental comment is hilarious 😂 you guys are right tho.

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Idiot_Savant_Tinker t1_j20j1po wrote

You saying good things about your parents is a horrible take based on your own personal experience.

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isusernamethistaken t1_j20knfa wrote

Didn't mean to reply to the comment. I meant to comment on the original post. My b

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PenguinTheYeti t1_j20kgii wrote

No, this is a horrible take based on your own personal experience.

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Passionofawriter t1_j22qvsc wrote

Yeah I agree with your comment as response to the original post haha

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icarusso t1_j1yallx wrote

You got it backwards. Parents owe everything to the new life they willingfully bring into this world, children don't have to be thankful for receiving what is rightfully theirs.

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Setheran t1_j1zkrhe wrote

I can be thankful when my parents gave me WAAAAAAY more than what is rightfully mine. Especially when every single penny they earned was spent on my sister and I.

Yeah parents do owe us when they bring us into the world, but good parents who do more than what they should deserve to be praised, and being grateful doesn't mean I'm thankful because they gave me a roof and food, which of course I'm owed.

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Solrinin t1_j207rt1 wrote

I think for the most part, parents get the kids they deserve. If you were a good parent, your kid will probably learn to be grateful and show it. If you were a shitty parent your kid probably won't be. And usually the parents I see bitching about their ungrateful kids are the ones that think they did a good job because they "provided a roof and food for them growing up".

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Ghaladh t1_j1ymlbc wrote

You don't have children, I suppose. Do you think parents who deserve praises do the bare minimum? Some walk the extra mile all the times. To be a decent parent all you have to do is feed and educate your children and care for them. That's all nature demands. There is a lot more that gets done beyond that and no sense of entitlement could be rightfully diminish the value of what's being done

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icarusso t1_j1yn0dl wrote

Human isn't a pet.

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Ghaladh t1_j1yn686 wrote

I'm glad you think that. I share the same view.

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oldcretan t1_j1zm7mz wrote

I understand where your coming from in regards to the demands on parenting. It's no easy task to be a good parent and it's common to see parents who do a shit job by doing the bare minimum. Where I disagree is with the need to show gratitude. My parents never asked for gratitude from me and I will never ask it from my two kids. Being a good parent is first and foremost a duty, going above and beyond as a parent is a part of that duty. You don't get a thank you for doing your job. That being said I always give gratitude where I can because I am truly grateful for people who do things for me. I regularly remind my parents that I'm grateful for what I am and that their love, hard work, and lessons made me the person I am today. I credit them for all of my successes.

Secondly it's evolutionarily beneficial for me to do my best for my kids so they can be the best people they can be. I don't expect gratitude for something that benefits me.

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