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PokeAndHauntUs t1_jb9qod4 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Podcaster saves boy and his brothers from being abused by their adoptive father by montanoj88

And how was this single wheelchair bound, on oxygen guy “caring” for these kids. Surely there was a better option.

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geekonthemoon t1_jb9txic wrote

Sadly most people don't know how bad and shorthanded the foster system is. A lot of the kids aren't even in homes, they're in group homes because there arent enough families.

It's why they've been removing way less kids from homes, especially where it's like mild neglect from drug addict parents, etc, because the alternative is rarely better.

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satanshand t1_jbaf5gs wrote

My experience with the adoption process was that it was prohibitively invasive, catered towards Christians and extremely expensive.

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another-reddit-noob t1_jbaqrvf wrote

would you mind sharing what was invasive about the adoption process? knowing america i definitely don’t doubt what you say but as someone who has considered adoption in the future (cannot have bio children), i’m really curious

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satanshand t1_jbatiiq wrote

Most of the organizations that we looked at wanted to know what kind of participation we had in church. On top of that they would do regular visits and wellness checks. They also would look extensively at your background and financial history.

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ALQatelx t1_jbb8b7b wrote

Aside from the church stuff, isnt that all a really good thing to do for an adoption agency,

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satanshand t1_jbbb6lf wrote

It is, but the fact that it cost more than two rounds of IVF is insane

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KB-say t1_jbbgvbz wrote

Yeah, it’s as much of a scam as it sounds.

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RiceAlicorn t1_jbavw3c wrote

Off the top of my head, some things that I believe can be asked of you include:

  1. Financial history

  2. Extensive inspections of your home

  3. Your medical history

  4. Drug use (legitimate or recreational; prescriptions, alcohol, etc.)

  5. Marital status

  6. Interviews with your loved ones to ascertain your identity and character

  7. Pretty much anything that is relevant to the adoption process.

It's understandable why they have to act like this, but it makes the adoption process very arduous. On top of all of that, adoption is "invasive" to your money (i.e. expensive as FUCK) and even after jumping every hoop you can be rejected. They can't legally discriminate against you, but they can certainly make up excuses to reject you (see: the difficulty LGBTQ+ people or people trying to adopt as a single parent face in the adoption process)

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satanshand t1_jbbbau5 wrote

They cater towards Christians because the majority of the organizations are church based

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ThorsLeftNipple t1_jbaocgx wrote

One of the victims states that the abuser is lying about his mobility issues and long term health issues and that he’s more mobile than he appears publicly.

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HermitCrabCakes t1_jbalr8n wrote

One kid said that's an act, the wheelchair and oxygen.

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Vectorman1989 t1_jbavj8x wrote

We have a similar case here in Scotland. We're trying to extradite a rapist to the US, but he's making it as difficult as possible. First he claimed he was someone else and now gets wheeled around in an oxygen mask claiming long COVID symptoms. They had a hearing recently and he refused to get in the van to go to court.

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curepure t1_jbbad53 wrote

well kids are expensive these days

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KB-say t1_jbbh4u0 wrote

Precisely why these vultures shouldn’t rob prospective adoptive parents

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thrway1209983 t1_jbczpne wrote

And if he had previous sexual abuse reports, how did he get these kids?

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Spire_Citron t1_jbcbe5y wrote

Yeah. I thought the adoption system was overly restrictive, if anything.

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