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SternLecture t1_ix907jm wrote

I had a neighbor with a tractor. A legit tractor with a bucket on the front. They never once offered to scrape the snow away for us in fact they piled all the snow from their house street and curb on our side of the street right in front of our house where the walkway from our porch meets the street curb. I am still bitter.

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Halogen12 t1_ix91j1q wrote

It boggles my mind how people do stuff like that and sleep at night. I have a relative who has great disdain for other people - they look after themselves first and only - and I have long suspected they are sociopathic. You said "had". Did either of you move away? I hope you have better neighbors now!

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SternLecture t1_ix93cac wrote

They moved away. I was so glad. Same here I am left mostly just totally baffled. They never helped anyone with the snow they spent a crazy amount of time driving this huge tractor around carefully moving snow and never once did it occur to help anyone else? I am not trying to make myself look good but even when I know other people have blowers you just take a few more minutes and do something for someone else. I think this is just what every normal person would do.

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slim_scsi t1_ixao0t7 wrote

I've had this same neighbor. Even offered to toss him a hundred bucks if he'd clear the road. All that expensive machinery, a giant tractor, to only plow his long driveway.

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OneMoreNightCap t1_ix9t0ja wrote

I had an older family member who was like this as well. Always thought people were trying to "cheat" them and thought everyone was out for themselves. As I got older, I realized they were the ones that stole, cheated and looked out for themselves first. All the issues they had with other people, I haven't faced and I always wonder how many of those issues were brought on to themselves or just plain old projection. Also wonder if the great depression had something to do with people like this and how their offspring learned to do things. So much scarcity during that time that people thought they just had to do what they had to do

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bearatrooper t1_ixa3djs wrote

Projection is the name of the game. "If I feel this way, other people must also, therefore I shall act accordingly."

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Jumbo757 t1_ix9fe1s wrote

This is a very American trait, capitalism has deisnged us to look out for ourselves only, me myself and I mentality

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Deep-Map-4521 t1_ixadiul wrote

r/im14andthisisdeep

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Jumbo757 t1_ixaomsi wrote

The truth is hard the older we get the more it sucks. You'll grow up one day child

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wzeeto t1_ixau9s6 wrote

Sounds like you need to do some growing up.

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Jumbo757 t1_ixaud73 wrote

Sounds like you took it personal, you're prob one of the ones

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Rubes2525 t1_ixd9012 wrote

That's the cold, hard truth. I've realized this too as I got older. Funny how you are getting downvoted. It's not like you said that you personally have that mentality.

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Jumbo757 t1_ixd93ti wrote

Yes it's probably because I used the word Americans I probably could have worded that better

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OuidOuigi t1_ix9xe36 wrote

People I know with tractors are pretty cool. Pulled many idiots out of ditches with other people's tractors haha.

Probably just lucky but most people seem to enjoy getting out the 4x4 or tractor to help.

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Ok_Cauliflower_3007 t1_ixbw368 wrote

I know the police near me (I’m in the town but the county is very rural) rely on farmers for rescues because they can get there faster than tow trucks usually do if something needs to be moved fast (blocking traffic, vulnerable occupants etc) they usually just hit up the nearest farm for someone with a tractor to help. I’ve seen them use them in flood rescues too since they are much higher than other vehicles and can drive through deeper water to stranded people.

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Gentrified_Tramp t1_ixb379w wrote

We had a neighbor growing up and one morning after we dug out the door our neighbor was passing by the house. We asked him to dig us out and he agreed but he had to go dig the bar out first so he had somewhere to drink that night.

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digitaldigdug t1_ixclbme wrote

Take out the hose and spray the length of their driveway

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