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efesl t1_j1kfixg wrote

I insist my 7 year old wears pants when the outside temperature won't reach 60F. He comes home from school every day with his pants pushed up above his knees. I don't know how much longer I'll be able to enforce no shorts in winter with him. He's going to be that kid.

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Aesop_Rocks t1_j1kgy1b wrote

I hate that I have to be the one to tell you this, but he's already that kid. You just won't let him wear his uniform.

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EnoughIdeas t1_j1kwwji wrote

I am get the mail barefoot guy now too. I was that kid

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[deleted] t1_j1mretp wrote

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EnoughIdeas t1_j1mtalu wrote

Not a puritan, you have no idea what my up bringing actually was and you wrote paragraphs instead of entertaining something might be hyperbole/jokes.

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NeilHanlon t1_j1knkvq wrote

why insist? honest question.

I was that 7 year old. pants suck.

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Bookrecswelcome t1_j1kqmmi wrote

Because his teacher says things like, “it would be nice to see Michael warm”. I am also a teacher. Can I just say, fuck that lady!

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NeilHanlon t1_j1kqyr1 wrote

I'm going to be the worst parent when I have kids.

mind your own business. like let's not make a value judgement about the ability of a parent to be able to provide warm clothing for their children at the whims of a kid.

kids get hot! it happens! bodies are different! lol

I remember my mom having to write a note saying I was allowed to go out for recess in only a sweatshirt. absolute lunacy. if a child says theyre not cold, perhaps we should listen.

edit to add: not "mind your own business" to yall.. to the nosey teachers 😉

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DoomdUser t1_j1lodkp wrote

> if a child says theyre not cold, perhaps we should listen.

You’ll revisit this statement when you have a toddler. I get what you’re saying, but sometimes it’s literally not as simple as “just listen to them”, because they will kill themselves and others around them.

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NeilHanlon t1_j1mnh3q wrote

lol. Theres a difference between a toddler and a 7 year old.

But please, go off.

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DoomdUser t1_j1mrmqx wrote

No need to be a smart ass.

> I’m going to be the worst parent when I have kids.

So you are just speculating, but you don’t actually know. Yeah there are a lot of differences between a 3 year old and a 7 year old, but can you give a percentage to determine exactly how much better at making decisions a 7 year old is than a 3 year old? How much more reliable are they verbally? It’s also heavily dependent on the actual kid - I would trust my 2 year old more in some situations than I would trust some od the high school kids I teach.

You’re advocating for giving a 2nd grader some voice in their own choices, which is fine. You have to give them some responsibility to teach them about it, yeah. But spend some time around that age group and you’ll realize that they will do shit like refuse to put on a jacket when it’s negative windchill just because an adult is asking them to. Or maybe their friend has a cooler jacket than them and they would rather freeze their balls off than feel embarrassed by their “dumb” jacket. Or maybe their dad didn’t let them play Fortnite as long as they wanted to, so wearing the jacket becomes a line in the sand against his dad.

You might think I’m exaggerating for the sake of an internet argument, but I’ll circle back to my original statement:

When you have kids, you’ll revisit just letting kids of that age do what they tell you they want to do. The parents who actually do employ the “never say no” approach don’t even realize the disaster they set up for their kids when it comes to socialization, and yes, other people can always tell.

And as far as your “nosey teacher” comment, do you actually have any concept of what would happen to a teacher if they actually let a kid outside in the cold without being dressed properly? “Johnny said he was warm enough”…don’t you think someone might eventually ask “why did you listen to a 7 year old”? If you are going to be a hyper progressive parent, that’s fine, but teachers literally don’t have the freedom to make that choice.

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NeilHanlon t1_j1msv0q wrote

not reading your long ass reply. but please again, continue assuming things about me you can't possibly know.

Merry Christmas.

listen to your kids.

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DoomdUser t1_j1mt7l0 wrote

Great discussion! You win the shitty redditor award for Christmas Day!

You said yourself “when I have kids”, and you even did you were going to be bad at it. I’m not assuming anything. You’re the one assuming that me, a teacher of 15 years and father of 2, “doesn’t listen” to kids.

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NeilHanlon t1_j1mtod5 wrote

so you.. took one thing and made a whole backstory about who I am.

Cool!

Merry Christmas dude. log off reddit and touch some grass. fucking hell

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NeilHanlon t1_j1mtq3c wrote

BTW please tell me where you teach so I can avoid your annoying ass attitude

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Bookrecswelcome t1_j1kv8s9 wrote

All the way with you! Btw - guess what parents gets judged the hardest? Teacher- moms! Happiest of holidays to you and your awesome mum for writing that note!!!

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funsk8mom t1_j1kqzrd wrote

My now 16yo wears shorts every day. He’s been like this for 3+ years. He’ll only put pants on when he skis because he doesn’t like the feel of snow pants on his legs

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jcf627 t1_j1maojh wrote

Get him the pants that zip off the legs at the knees or make them.

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