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[deleted] OP t1_ix37zn5 wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ix4kyga wrote

All those things are fun, but what people don't think of is how difficult it can be to actually start conversations or make actual friendships. I'm like the most talkative person I know. I talk to strangers like it's my job, but when it comes to moving that chatting into trying to be friends... that's where I struggle.

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[deleted] OP t1_ix4ovox wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ix4qa7f wrote

May I ask what kind of gym it is? I've always felt out of place at gyms, even though I enjoy working out. A town nearby opened a community center with a gym some years back, and it was great. You see all types of people, and it's definitely more of a place for anyone to go. I never feel out of place there, however, the "regular gym" in town straight up frightens me.

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[deleted] OP t1_ix4r0l3 wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ix53cpm wrote

Oh ok. I've never been to one of those. I live in a pretty rural area, but for some reason we have lots of gyms.

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[deleted] OP t1_ix53nmy wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ix5wdy2 wrote

I watched a YouTube video about that whole thing. After watching it, I think I'd feel awkward there too, for different reasons. Lol.

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[deleted] OP t1_ix61kdr wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ixd3vtm wrote

I gotta find that video for you. You'll probably find some humor in it.

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[deleted] OP t1_ixd5qgq wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ixd65mv wrote

https://youtu.be/5-jIV3R2v5I

Found it. Yeah, it goes into detail about that alarm too. I'm just a loud person...I feel like I wouldn't be able to be in the same room as it without accidentally setting it off somehow. 😄🤷‍♀️

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[deleted] OP t1_ixd8nad wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ixf3cwz wrote

Lol well that's good! I have one of those giant water bottles. I love it because I drink a ton of water even when not working out. Stay hydrated 😁👍

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[deleted] OP t1_ixfeddw wrote

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ixfhdzf wrote

Well I'm glad you've been exposed to a wonderful part of YouTube (in my opinion). And keep chugging the water! If I was anywhere near there I'd offer to hang out and let you be scared of me in person. Lol

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glitteryunicornlady t1_ixf3jw7 wrote

Just realized you sent me Scott Cramer's video about PF. I watched it way back when it came out (because I enjoy me some Scott Cramer) but watching it again lol

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gOrDoNhAsNtPlAyEdIn3 t1_ix5k2pu wrote

How's your fitness? Do you have any friends in the area at all? Climbing is a super friendly environment. Dover has indoor ascent and Barrington has a very accessible ice climbing wall on the Stonehouse Pond loop.

My go-to suggestion for 20-somethings is climbing.

I'm 32 so I've aged out of it a little bit because it trends towards mid twenties / college age people but they're the nicest people you'll meet in the state.

And, to reiterate, beer/drinking is an enormous part of making friends as an adult in NH. Even if you're sober, bars are your friend.

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[deleted] OP t1_ix5lzkz wrote

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gOrDoNhAsNtPlAyEdIn3 t1_ix5n9r1 wrote

Naw, you'll be fine for the climbing stuff, obviously being aware of age gap stressors. Under ~25 it seems like age matters a lot, over 25ish is kinda whatever.

Bars alone can be weird. I've made several friends at bars but I'm very passive and kind of a long con kinda guy.

Show up repeatedly, become a familiar face. Talk to people, general chatting. I became casual friends with two bartenders over the last 3 years. It takes time and a certain level of savviness.

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