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sutisuc t1_iz11ex0 wrote

NYC has such a crummy sub for the largest city in the country. Cities like 1/4 or less their size have more active diverse subs

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clearedtoland22 OP t1_iz187yt wrote

As an NYC ex-pat, one of the most favorite and notable changes now living in a suburb is the sense of community. I actually know our mailman, sanitation folks, bump into the mayor, and our elected officials - and neighbors of course. As a lifelong NY’er, it feels strange that I actually have access to these people.

Obviously, the complexity of our infrastructure or size of our population is by no means comparable. I’m more active in the communities out here because I don’t feel like a drop in the ocean.

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dqqxmy1 t1_iz1cwb4 wrote

Meh, medium density like NJ has its own set of complexities right? E.g. unlike NYC that can build less transit (albeit more complex) to move lots of people, NJT needs to build way more to move computable amounts. Not to mention NYC operating at different levels of restrictions compared to NJ which needs to organize all the way from state to municipalities.

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sutisuc t1_iz18bp8 wrote

Where did you end up?

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clearedtoland22 OP t1_iz192s6 wrote

Union County. Definitely guilty of the affordable-home exodus but now I wish I’d done it so many years earlier.

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sutisuc t1_iz19v8t wrote

Eh I mean the NYC-NJ pipeline goes back centuries you’re just being smart lol. And yeah I was born and raised in NJ but did a few years in NYC and very glad to be back on this side of the river now.

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alheim t1_iz1iogm wrote

I'm from NJ (Monmouth shore town), been in the city for 15 years. I know the mailman, and we have a close knit and somewhat large group of friends from the community, mostly from the immediate neighborhood. Our elected officials come to the community board meetings and Civic association meetings. It's great. Don't get me wrong, I love it in NJ, but your experience is anecdotal. In NJ I was always in my car and that limited my ability to meet people.

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