Pollywogstew_mi t1_jeenfqy wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:45 PM

Reply to comment by alexm2816 in How to split bills fairly in this instance? by [deleted]

Right, but if your romantic live-in partner of 4 years who you might even marry, had more milk than they needed, wouldn't it be reasonable to expect them to give you some of their extra for less than you'd pay at the grocery store? Shouldn't that partner WANT to share their extra? I'm not saying the lower earner should get a free ride, but in a loving partnership, you should want to share your standard of living as much as possible and not end up in a scenario like "Hey honey, let's go out to dinner" "Sorry, I can't afford that because rent is due this week." True: if B was living somewhere else, they'd have the same issue. But the difference is, it's within A's control to level the playing field. Why wouldn't a loving partner want to do that?

alexm2816 t1_jeep3y3 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:57 PM

See paragraph 1. Whatever works for you.

It's an emotional arrangement first that needs money (like all things) to function. If you're comfortable at a different level of support/contribution great.

I'm not trying to have the romantic inclinations of a wet sponge but this is a finance sub and not a relationship one. It's sort of like seafood; you can't put your finger on what makes it right but when it's bad you both know.