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Druid___ t1_jasf898 wrote

So to find yourself, you simply need to stop looking?

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waytogoal OP t1_jasgzw5 wrote

The main obstacle to finding your true nature, true "self" if you'd like to call it, is obsessing over it. Same with finding happiness.

The article has this line that embodies a similar logic: "Don’t follow the cliché of “love yourself”, instead, love what you do. If you are doing something truly great and proud of, how else would you not feel loved?"

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scrollbreak t1_jata6re wrote

Well because the thing being done is being loved - that's not the same as oneself being loved. How can you feel 'you' are being loved if you wont formulate a sense of 'you'?

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TheWarInBaSingSe t1_jaxkfzr wrote

You're missing the crucial why.

The problem is the expectation that there is a true self to find in the first place. Simply needing to stop looking for it, implies that you might find it one day. The expectation that you might find it one day will constantly cause suffering, because you would think that you are missing something or that your life isnt fullfilled until you have it.

Understand that "the true self" doesnt exist. Therefore you can let go of the thought of your true self and you will never even feel the need to look for something that you know doesnt exist.

Edit: Instead focus your attention on the things that exist and are actually worthwhile.

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