The problem is the expectation that there is a true self to find in the first place. Simply needing to stop looking for it, implies that you might find it one day. The expectation that you might find it one day will constantly cause suffering, because you would think that you are missing something or that your life isnt fullfilled until you have it.
Understand that "the true self" doesnt exist.
Therefore you can let go of the thought of your true self and you will never even feel the need to look for something that you know doesnt exist.
Edit: Instead focus your attention on the things that exist and are actually worthwhile.
TheWarInBaSingSe t1_jaxkfzr wrote
Reply to comment by Druid___ in Glorifying the "self" is detrimental to both the individual and the larger world. It neither helps you find your true nature, nor your role in the larger world. by waytogoal
You're missing the crucial why.
The problem is the expectation that there is a true self to find in the first place. Simply needing to stop looking for it, implies that you might find it one day. The expectation that you might find it one day will constantly cause suffering, because you would think that you are missing something or that your life isnt fullfilled until you have it.
Understand that "the true self" doesnt exist. Therefore you can let go of the thought of your true self and you will never even feel the need to look for something that you know doesnt exist.
Edit: Instead focus your attention on the things that exist and are actually worthwhile.