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legochemgrad t1_j2byjno wrote

Reply to comment by pm_your_perky_bits in Aphrodite beats her son Eros with a slipper. 360 BC from Taranto by swell_swell_swell

I mean are you actually happy with being beat or are you just justifying it because you love you parents? If you dig down, I think you’d realize that beating kids only makes them into angry adults. Do you have as much emotional reserves as you want or treat people as well as you wish you were treated? Can you honestly be there for someone without flying into a rage on their behalf?

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2c01rn wrote

Considering that I'm a grown man, I have the hindsight to understand that I have never been beaten by my parents, who are long dead.

Did I experience physical discipline as a child? Absolutely. I learned incredibly valuable lessons that I will never forget.

The world at large has caused much more irreparable damage to me, primarily due to my resistance of my parents attempts to teach me how to conduct myself in a proper manner in a cruel, unforgiving society.

I regret nothing other than taking so long to accept discipline and instructions from two parents who wished nothing more than for me to excel in this harsh environment. I miss them dearly.

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legochemgrad t1_j2c19wk wrote

I’m also a grown man that went through years of therapy to be in the place I want to be. Do I understand what my parents were trying to do? Yes. Did it actually help me get anywhere faster? No.

Life pushed me and then my own work on self improvement got me there. And that self improvement doesn’t depend on getting abused. You’re clinging to old ways and bad parenting. Good parents can teach without pain. Good parents have their own trauma under control.

I’m sorry that your parents are dead and that you’re grieving them but grief doesn’t mean that they were right.

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2c4kz4 wrote

I am going to respectfully to disagree with you. I am happy for you that you were able to find a way to make breakthroughs that got you out of whatever abuse you may have endured that brought you to where you are now. Not everyone is willing, or able, to get there. I can't, nor would it be prudent or reasonable, for me to imagine how difficult that must have been.

I appreciate your condolences regarding my parents. However, I never, and still don't, feel like I was abused. Were they perfect? Of course not, and I would be remiss to assume that anyone is capable of it. Therefore, I can not, nor will I, accept any claims of bad parenting. You piss with the cock you've got.

Regardless, I very much enjoyed our interactions this evening. Thanks for the insight.

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