I hope you dont find yourself in a similar situation in the future but if you do most facilities allow patients and families to essentially call a "code" on a situation they are unhappy with. Its usually "condition help" or "condition stop" and you can start this process by calling the operator. Im sorry this happened to you. Most policies are in place soley to protect the hospitals from legal action and in most cases this supercedes emotionally charged situations like yours which is a shame.