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YoProfWhite t1_jac90wa wrote

Sit her down and say "this is not how I want us to have confrontations, if you keep doing this, then I won't be around anymore."

Frankly, it sounds like you're seen as someone who will always come back, no matter how childish they behave. Give them a wake up call and tell them to cut this shit out. She isn't 19 anymore and this isn't a mature way of dealing with things.

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Leather-Worry-7517 OP t1_jad9rj8 wrote

You are right, because I'm always here when she's done being upset. I need to regain power in this relationship. My thing is, if I said I won't be around anymore, she will just say that's fine and she will be ok. She won't be hurt by my leaving. Because I try so hard to make it work, she keeps sticking around. I guarantee as soon as I put less effort in or pretend I don't care, she will leave and be ok being by herself. She is a narcissist.

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YoProfWhite t1_jada582 wrote

Sounds terribly exhausting. You must really love her to be willing to put in this much effort. Of course, if she really loved you back then she wouldn't be okay with you deciding to leave.

It sounds like one of you already knows this relationship is dead and the other is left dancing with a corpse full of bile.

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