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itsameluigee t1_jaequjp wrote

Why are you punishing her? It's not her job to get people to like you.

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ahappydementor OP t1_jaerc9d wrote

Danny is a woman. I specify that fairly often. I'm not saying she needs to force people to like me. I'm saying it's unfair to force me into situations that are so shitty for me, and not allow me to reciprocate, while letting them do whatever they want. I am aware that she can't control their behavior, so I'm asking for advice on how to make this situation less shitty for me.

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itsameluigee t1_jaetcls wrote

You literally created this scenario by telling a bunch of people you don't like these 2.

Now you're surprised when they don't greet you warmly.

And now you want this friend to choose sides when she hasn't directly done anything to you besides be friends to be people you don't like.

Now tell me who's being unreasonable in this instance.

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ahappydementor OP t1_jaeu3vv wrote

It was two people. I thought Tarryn and Cara were aware I didn't like them. I was responding to Cara saying, completely without prompting, that I was an awful person with an awful sense of humor, and made a joke out of it because I was trying to make it less awkward.

It was further than 'not greeting me warmly', it was ignoring me to the point several groups of people noticed, as I actively tried to include them in conversations and they acted as though I didn't exist. I have ALWAYS been civil to them. I expected civility in return. And I expected more out of a friend that I have supported through several incredibly hard situations. If you don't have advice, why are you on an advice forum?

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itsameluigee t1_jaeum2c wrote

My advice is that you're part of the problem and you won't admit it.

When you do maybe you'll improve your situation.

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