My (24f) abruptly ends things with me (34m) after 3 years coming to 4. I'm dead inside. I thought we were happy. Does age gap really matter?

Submitted by ThrowRA_ded t3_11enzbg in relationship_advice

My (24f) who has been battling anxiety/depression for a long time just broke up with me (34m) because she doesn't feel the same happiness in the relationship and worried that in the future she can't guarantee that she'll be happy. When we started the relationship she was in a very dark place. I've been there throughout the relationship supporting her and loving her wholeheartedly bringing her to therapy and getting her out of this dark place together as one. We've gone through many ups and downs because it was really hard fighting mental health issues. But we were happy (so I thought ) Fast forward today she is in a much better place now. She has grown to a woman and is now much more independent. She is still fighting it no doubt but she has the tools now to help her cope with it. Few days back she dropped the bomb all of a sudden without prior notice without any time/chance to work things out. But we spoke and now we are taking a break. What do I do? I'm feeling broken, empty and lost into why is this happening? She has been everything to me I was everything to her. We've seen our future together a future that we were planning to build together. She says that she loves me very much but is not as happy anymore. We've been together for 4 years in 15 days. Does age gap really matter? We've never spoken about our age differences.

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Ok-fifi-78 t1_jaf4yol wrote

In these age gap relationship posts in reddit, the girl almost always have some issues at the start of relstionship, emotionally, financially so that the older guy can swoop in and sort of rescue her. After a few years, trouble in paradise, the girl opens her eyes that the older guy could be abusive or she has changed to a different person.

This is what you get for getting with them young, you may not be maturing or growing at the same level.

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Jmm1272 t1_jaf4d6w wrote

She may be healing and now she has different needs.

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