He has “a” say. You are giving him the only say. You have a day too! Again I’m not in the UK but in the US you can say you don’t have enough money for alimony, they court determines that. Some states determine fault for divorce and that impacts the amount, other states have community property and alimony is based on your income. In both examples there is a mathematical formula and they don’t just let someone say “I can’t afford it” you daughter may need child support or school expenses or braces or glasses ….all of those expenses would be determined in your divorce.

Here I found this

Spousal maintenance is an amount awarded by the Courts to be paid by the spouse with the higher income to the spouse with the lower income when a couple divorces. It is only awarded if one party cannot support themselves without payments from the other. It can be awarded for a specified term or for life in some cases.

https://www.family-lawfirm.co.uk/divorce-settlements/spousal-maintenance/

This next one has quite a bit of information

https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service

Ok I am very familiar with Asperger’s and what you described doesn’t sound like that, it sounds like he’s a selfish asshole and is emotionally abusive. Why do you have to follow weird rules and do things his way? What happens if you don’t? I HIGHLY recommend that you DONT do things his way, because it will be healthier for you and your daughter.

I am I’m the US so I don’t know what resources are available to help you. I hope he would have to pay you alimony. Best wishes to you

She may be healing and now she has different needs.

Ok so this issue comes down to your black and white thinking. Also explains your fast attachment. Don’t bring up the commitment anymore. If you don’t want him to feel pressured, then don’t bro g it up anymore. Just enjoy your time together. Also, you already know he’s bad about texting. Is he better if you call?

Which BPD. ? You said you e had it since you were a kid and your mom told you, you can’t expect people to love you the way you love them. I’m trying to understand this

You should have to force him. He should hear you saying it’s an issue and then he should take care of it. That’s why I say he doesn’t support you. You already told him how you feel and he did nothing about it.

First of all do you mean bipolar or borderline personality? How does either one make you more open and giving? I’m very familiar with both

Your boyfriend should tell her to speak English when you are around. It sounds like he doesn’t support you

You want to date someone who get money from being with other men?

I suggest asking what you can do

I have been in this situation except we didn’t live together. You have to break up with her and it’s not going to be easy. You are not responsible for her life or her personal struggles. I do understand that you care, but you can’t stay together because she has a hard life and if you stay together it’s going to really deteriorate and end badly. I promise you, the longer you stay the more unpleasant the ending will be.

Your friends threw you a party and you’re sad? Not everyone likes to write cards. I am also the kind of person who would love a heartfelt card but you can’t demand it, some people just don’t feel good at it. I have a wonderful ex boyfriend whom I dated for three and a half years and was very caring but never once gave me a card even though he knew I would love it. It’s just not something everyone does. Your girlfriend tried to get you something and you declined. That was how she wanted to celebrate you. BUT you had a great party! Why isn’t that enough to make you happy?

Your friends threw you a party and you’re sad? Not everyone likes to write cards. I am also the kind of person who would love a heartfelt card but you can’t demand it, some people just don’t feel good at it. I have a wonderful ex boyfriend whom I dated for three and a half years and was very caring but never once gave me a card even though he knew I would love it. It’s just not something everyone does.

He’s clearly still upset so you need to discuss it more

What did you say when he told you he’s normal? Did you say no you’re not, something is different?

Talk to your friend and of course tell your girlfriend. She will be upset if she finds out you knew and didn’t tell her

Not really. It’s deceptive

Exactly he does want it to be this way that’s why he chose to do it, keep telling yourself that until you believe it

If he was interested he would not have pushed you away. You have to look at his actions and not his words

He had already picked her. He was seeing you a few times a month and her much more.

Here’s the major red flag 🚩 He said he wished it didn’t have to be this way? IT DOESNT! It is this way because he DOES want it to be this way! It is his choice for it to be this way. Just hope you are clear about that.