My(29F) boyfriend(31M) got an email from a online hookup app.

Submitted by PsychologicalPanda84 t3_11dee83 in relationship_advice

So I was using his laptop and saw an email from BeNaughty on his email account saying something about seeing live videos from his matches. I’ve never heard of that website, so I clicked on the “View all” link at the bottom of the email, sure enough it directed me to the website itself, which was logged into an account with his first, last name and a random number at the end as his username. I logged out and said “forgot password” to see if it was an actual created account. Sure enough he got an email to reset his password. He told me that it’s a fake account because the location was in Florida and he was unable to change it. He kept getting angry and frustrated saying it’s not his account and it’s not a real account. I did research that indicated this website is mostly bots with stolen using dumb men for money. He didn’t have his card information on there, it looked like he just got the account in February. Could it be possible he’s not lying? Would someone create an account with his email? Or am I a fool for even thinking of believing him? Please help me. I don’t understand those dating apps.

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HarveySnake t1_ja83ho0 wrote

DON'T CLICK THAT LINK!!!!!!

That's like information age safety 101. Never click a link in a suspicious email!

Its very possible he was telling the truth if he is as foolish as you are with spam emails.

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PsychologicalPanda84 OP t1_ja84aky wrote

Here’s the thing, he works in IT! And you’re right, it’s basic knowledge! I only did so because the email came from benaughty.com, He clicked on it multiple times too trying to show me it’s not his account. He was even messing with the location. So isn’t it a red flag that he didn’t automatically think or say “wait no babe why did you click on that link! It’s a virus!” Instead, he got mad and gave me the silent treatment for about an hour. Came into the room and then tried to “prove me wrong” by editing his profile.

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HarveySnake t1_ja87qd3 wrote

Even IT people do dumb shit with their emails. That's coming from personal experience.

The thing that lends truth and credibility to your boyfriends idiocy is that its a sketchy website and not a phone app. If your bf had wanted to cheat he would probably stick to the more popular methods: Tinder or Bumble or OF. Sketchy website = instant identity theft with no sexy times. Everyone knows that, unless they are an imbecile.

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PsychologicalPanda84 OP t1_ja891ip wrote

He did have tinder and bumble and even hinge, but I made him erase those apps. So I thought he found a website to use since his laptop is always locked.

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HarveySnake t1_ja8bzsn wrote

If its a work laptop it will be required to be locked. Generally that's company policy. Personal laptop, open to interpretation... My daughter and son both have laptops that auto-lock. They are adults and neither of them are in relationships and their education on computer safety from myself and the local high school really hammered home the necessity of locking your laptop.

If you are looking for proof of cheating, check his phone. That's where the apps will be and any communication apps (dm's through social media, snapchat, whatsapp, etc...)

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PsychologicalPanda84 OP t1_ja89bqb wrote

Also it’s a real website, sketchy true, because it’s all bots, but it’s a real website idiot men use

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