You should acknowledge the reality that she still only wants a friendship. If you're good with that, then be friends, but you're logically not. That's perfectly fine, but you need to be honest about it.

Do you want to be her friend? Then be her friend. But if you're going to have a hard time getting over your crush, or would be trying to be friends in the hope of taking another shot at something more, then stay distanced.

…be friends with her?

If you confessed to her, you obviously like her company right? And given that she wants to talk with you, she likes your company too. Yes, it’s going to be a bit awkward at first, but is your pride really worth losing a friend you care about?

Been there. It sucks. I’ve done it though - been the friend - but it wasn’t the same as before, especially when she started dating an idiot. Just be you, have a coffee and a chat but try to close up that open heart wound. Good luck.

Do what you want. You wanna hang, hang. You wanna stay away, stay away. There’s no rationale in relations

You need to move on. Pretending to be her friend will only hurt both of you in the long run.

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You recognise that this person won’t be dating you, even if you stay friends for a while, so unless you’re okay with just that and nothing more, don’t engage.

You can absolutely be friends but the romantic side is dead, not wounded, it is dead because if you let yourself pretend there is a glimmer of hope you will do yourself a great disservice.

There is nothing wrong with having a person you like be a friend right now but that is all they will be. Good luck finding a good one elsewhere OP

I would not hang out with the person or just be friends. You're going to lead yourself on and look into things you shouldn't. Find another woman to dedicate your time to. It sucks but always always respect your time first. Promise you you'll be happy about it later on.

There are two types of “friends”

There is “we are friends and there is never a chance of us being a couple”

And there is “we are friends are you’re a cutie”

If you keep wanting to be in the second category of friendship, you need to accept all forms of friendship. However be aware you could also be accepting a soul-crushing invite to category 1 friendship.

Even if it’s category 2, you’re gonna have to act like it’s category 1, and never focus on that second category. Just go with the flow, and focus on being friends first, and nothing else. You cannot be in category 2 if you are not friends.

You may be in category 2 after doing something as ridiculous as proposing after a couple of months and this is your second chance, but you’re not going to get a third, and you’re going to have to play the long game — think years.

You tell her you’re not interested in just being friends for your own well-being.

Be honest with yourself can you just be her friend , is so text her back and continue your friendship.

But if you’re thinking this is a way in to start dating her, just leave her alone.

Somewhat ironically, you are doing the best possible thing to make her actually want a relationship with her … ignoring her and living your best life. I would guess that you used to text her and give her attention and now she misses that … she doesn’t want you as a friend, she wants the validation of having you pine after her so she can feel good about herself. My advice would be to let her pursue you now … if she wants to be friends with you she can do the work and prove to you that’s it’s worth your time and energy.

Say of course we can be friends. Then ask her out on a date.