MckittenMan t1_jeadkie wrote on March 30, 2023 at 4:04 PM

Would it be possible to move back home instead of having to wait for July?

You know the cycle. You know what to expect when you attempt to break it off. You know his tactics.

You need the courage and strength to not buy it.

Have someone there who can help you move, get it all done in one day.

Clean break:

>Sorry, this isn't working for us, we're a dysfunctional couple. It will be better for us to go our seperate ways.
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>I no longer want to be in this relationship.

Then you block all paths of contact.

LaFluffy OP t1_jeaeb7s wrote on March 30, 2023 at 4:09 PM

i wish i could but due to a new job i have to stay for at least another two months anyways as there is a no move policy through training. i also dont want to give him the opportunity to stop paying bills out of spite and have that financially ruin me in the future.

MckittenMan t1_jeajv4i wrote on March 30, 2023 at 4:44 PM

Alright, in that case.. if you're stuck there. You need to start saving up as much as possible.

That way, when the lease is up, there is nothing holding you back from moving. And if you're not where you want to be financially near that day, consider moving back home to get back on your feet.

Do not allow yourself to sign up for another lease because you're dependent on someone.

LaFluffy OP t1_jeakhjq wrote on March 30, 2023 at 4:48 PM

i agree. im excited and terrified at the same. the last time i tried to block all contact he created other phone numbers in order to call me. i dont think hell do anything violent but i feel as though he will see me moving out on our ring camera and come back from work in order to try and stop it