throwawayOvershare1 OP t1_jeg4ufe wrote on March 31, 2023 at 7:38 PM

Reply to comment by MarvellousIntrigue in My gf (24f) broke up with me (30m) after a month into an overseas trip by throwawayOvershare1

Appreciate the response. Amount of sex partners can affect the ability to pair bond though, and unfortunately it seems like that is the case with her :(.
But yeah, her having unprotected sex with another guy and not telling me till much later, definitely hurt. Definitely questioned things, but again it's so hard to be logical when you genuinely like someone.

MarvellousIntrigue t1_jeg7hqx wrote on March 31, 2023 at 7:55 PM

What do you mean, ‘affect the ability to pair bond’?? Sorry, I don’t mean to sound rude, but that is honestly the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

People will bond and become attached to someone if they feel a connection with them and like them for who they are as a person. How many people you have had sex with prior is irrelevant. It has no baring whatsoever on whether you will bond and have a connection with the next person.

My husband had slept with 40 women before we met. He is the most loving and caring man to me. Our bond is stronger than any I have ever had. We trust each other completely, and hence him being totally open and honest with me about his life before me.

People can have attachment issues because of childhood trauma with parents/family, but sexual partners from one night stands because you are just living carefree, not so much!

I’m thinking your view on this is cultural/religious?? I understand your view. I just don’t believe the two things are related.

Yeah, that last part, unprotected sex etc. she just seems like she doesn’t care. She seems very selfish tbh. You seem like a good dude! I would try and put it behind you and move forward to find someone that deserves you.