MarvellousIntrigue
MarvellousIntrigue t1_jeg7hqx wrote
Reply to comment by throwawayOvershare1 in My gf (24f) broke up with me (30m) after a month into an overseas trip by throwawayOvershare1
What do you mean, ‘affect the ability to pair bond’?? Sorry, I don’t mean to sound rude, but that is honestly the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.
People will bond and become attached to someone if they feel a connection with them and like them for who they are as a person. How many people you have had sex with prior is irrelevant. It has no baring whatsoever on whether you will bond and have a connection with the next person.
My husband had slept with 40 women before we met. He is the most loving and caring man to me. Our bond is stronger than any I have ever had. We trust each other completely, and hence him being totally open and honest with me about his life before me.
People can have attachment issues because of childhood trauma with parents/family, but sexual partners from one night stands because you are just living carefree, not so much!
I’m thinking your view on this is cultural/religious?? I understand your view. I just don’t believe the two things are related.
Yeah, that last part, unprotected sex etc. she just seems like she doesn’t care. She seems very selfish tbh. You seem like a good dude! I would try and put it behind you and move forward to find someone that deserves you.
MarvellousIntrigue t1_jefxf38 wrote
Reply to comment by throwawayOvershare1 in My gf (24f) broke up with me (30m) after a month into an overseas trip by throwawayOvershare1
That’s really mean! Military training is extremely tough! She should be proud of you! Not putting you down! It’s a very honourable thing for you to be doing!!
Yeah, right. I get it might be hard to hear about the one night stands, but you can’t let someone’s past effect how you see them now. It’s about the here and now and the kind of person they are towards you now. The amount of sexual partners doesn’t define someone. Noting that in the here and now, she seems like a horrible person! Someone that only cares for herself!
I totally understand about the miscarriage/relationship. That would hurt anyone! I would find it very hard to move past that and get back with someone. Especially considering how she is treating you! You deserve way better! Don’t settle for anyone! She is behaving in a very flippant manner, and that isn’t the kind of person I would ever want to be with!
MarvellousIntrigue t1_jeftcsc wrote
Reply to My gf (24f) broke up with me (30m) after a month into an overseas trip by throwawayOvershare1
Dude she sounds like a horrible horrible person! She clearly doesn’t give a crap how she made you feel! Those messages are so cold!
What is with the comments on your body and the military! That’s just low! You look ill?!? What… you got fit?? Either way, it’s a superficial thing to say!
Forget her and move on! She isn’t worth anymore tears!
Also, what did you mean 6 guys? Are you saying she has slept with 6 men before you?? Was this an issue for you?
MarvellousIntrigue t1_jegm4u2 wrote
Reply to comment by MuffinRelevant5145 in for those who had nothing how did you proved everyone who doubted you wrong? by BlackSea007
Yep, this will do it! Then you get to hear them gossip and make snide remarks about your achievements! They are secretly hoping you will fail so they can watch you fall apart! Gotta love jealous people!