So I f (20) made a sex tape with a guy m(21). It's not high quality and it's very amateur home made porn. At the time it turned me on and it didn't seem like it would be an issue. My reasoning was that I can't ever really see us getting in a fight or any situation where he would use revenge porn against me. He also lives about an hour away in a different town so he knows no one I know and I know no one he knows. His dick is also in it ( not his face but mine is) though he was recording so that's why. So I also feel as if he wouldn't want his friends or people looking watching it. The only thing is in one of the videos he took he said " Look at how hot this shit is" and I heard him typing at another point ( though it could've been him putting in a password).
Do guys often share sex videos with friends/online even if they're in it too? Im just wondering if it’s likely he’ll share it.

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1dreamer3 t1_iujjj81 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:24 PM

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He'll share it 100%

Low_Programmer6258 OP t1_iujjm0x wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:25 PM

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Replying to 1dreamer3 (#401,724)

Why though

SimpleBelgianLogic t1_iujjmev wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:25 PM

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You will never know truly. People can act weird when their buttons are pushed.

If he's not your partner who you truly trust (and even then...), best to ask him to delete it.

Low_Programmer6258 OP t1_iujjs5o wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:26 PM

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Replying to SimpleBelgianLogic (#401,758)

Us ever being in a fight is nearly 100% not gonna happen, I’m mainly asking if it’s likely for him to share it for any other reason

Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_iujjuzh wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:26 PM

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I doubt if anyone is keeping statistics. I assume most people know that distributing something like that without permission could get them in trouble with the law.

SimpleBelgianLogic t1_iujkbf0 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:30 PM

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Replying to Low_Programmer6258 (#401,807)

You're asking for a character analysis on a guy we don't know. Impossible question to answer.

The closest I can tell you is this: I've seen good, honest guys do stupid stuff they probably regretted afterwards whenever the "environment" was badly encouraging them. In my case: put 20 soccer guys into a dressing room and once those kinds of talks start flowing with some beers, some things shouldn't be shared (just shown, or thrown in a whatsapp group chat).

So yes, it is possible he will share it to brag or have his "moment de gloire", even though that could be out of character.

It's also possible he's a decent guy who will lock this in his phone until he's bored of it and deletes it some months later.

You never know.

1dreamer3 t1_iujkbmb wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:30 PM

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Replying to Low_Programmer6258 (#401,755)

It's just something most guys do specially if you're just fwb, it'll be different if you where dating.

Numerous-Mouse-1914 t1_iujkt01 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:33 PM

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Lol yes hun they do

[deleted] t1_iujku90 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:33 PM

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sccamero90 t1_iujlfqi wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:37 PM

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Replying to Low_Programmer6258 (#401,755)

He would share it, not for revenge but as a badge of pride. Hopefully he hasn't. Men tend to share a ton of stuff between themselves. I know guys that compare " themselves" to their friends and even share hot photos of those they banged.

I would kindly ask him to delete it for your sake of mind.

hufflinmypuff t1_iujma4m wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:43 PM

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Guys share that stuff all the time. If he’s not your long term partner I wouldn’t place that level of trust in him. I’m a woman and have had guys show me girls’ nudes randomly without me asking.

[deleted] t1_iujqmv7 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:14 PM

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Healthy_Charity2015 t1_iujtd6g wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:33 PM

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Guys don't share 100% of the sex tapes they don't make. Call this one a lesson and move on.

lolinpopsicle t1_iujx555 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:01 PM

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If I were you I would ask him to delete it and ensure he does not have any copies.

Remove from phone, from the cloud, from anything.

Regardless if he shares it or not; guess what could happen?

"Oh I am so sorry; someone hacked my account and it looks like they shared the video."