>Sex always felt like a chore to me ... In the beginning I was never able to come, he always said it's my fault ... I feel like my view on sex is sort of distorted, I never did it for myself. I had other sex partners after my relationship and I never enjoyed it that much ... We tried making me come, I showed him what I do and I also brought my toy, but it just didn't work. At some point I suddenly broke down crying, I think trying to make me come to no avail triggered me.

The first lie that your ex told you was that it was your fault. Fault and guilt have nothing to do with it. You do not owe anybody an orgasm. Not even yourself. Orgasms, when they happen, are a treat. A treat for you. You're thinking of your own orgasms as a gift to your partner, not a gift to yourself. Please be more selfish about this.

I recommend getting lots of practice in giving orgasms to yourself. By yourself, you don't need to think about anyone else. Try different things, just to see what works and what doesn't. It's all about you.

Once you start to get good at giving orgasms to yourself, think about things you could do with another body in the room to spice things up. Even if it's just somebody to help you operate three toys all at once. Then add that body. Make it a fun, stress-free, exploration. Above all, be sure to enjoy the things that aren't orgasms too.

Note how the comments divide. A simple breakup would completely solve OP's problem. But some people simply can't resist the urge to confront.

Just dump him. Or, keep him if you like toxic relationships. As toxic relationships go, this one has some real potential.

>I don't know if I can live a life of only being worth a buck or two to my partner either.

I hope you don't think he has to buy you. If you're going to be married, the two of you need to start thinking about where your pooled resources will do the most good.

You need a partner, not a jailer. It's no good being treated like a criminal, if you're not.

According to traditional etiquette, it's the polite thing to do, except that it shouldn't have anything, specifically, to do with your ass. I hope that part of the discussion was just a bad joke.

It's possible. A lot will depend on how and why the cheating happened.

It's not your inheritance until he dies.

If it feels wrong, don't do it. I just hope you're not trying, in a backhanded way, to set some standard for what your girlfriend can do with her friends.

You can explain that you want to limit the time you spend together out of respect for your girlfriend, adding that your girlfriend is not complaining. You don't want to seem to be shifting the responsibility for this decision.

It is definitely possible for a woman to be that heartless. She appears to be a good example of someone with that condition.

You're being overly sensitive. It's a simple choice between one ruined eve and two.

You obviously need to be finished with this guy.

You're allowed to be clueless until you're 18.

You can invite her for a one-to-one chat, maybe over coffee, in connection with one of these meetings. You steer the conversation towards relationships to see what, if anything, she says about her status. You see how she responds to harmless compliments, to meaningful glances, and to opportunities to touch you. That sort of thing.

Wait for the results, and the prospects for treatment. Then you will be better able to say exactly what you think has happened.

Treat them the same way you do the people who want to clean your heating ducts.

How is it hard to end a relationship? Just stop communicating.

It isn't just about age. There are also the concerns about abuse of authority, and about unfairness to other students.

Don't you think she's allowed to prefer one potential partner over another?

It's most likely a brag, meant to convince either you or himself that he's a catch. He may also be inviting you to share more details of your own past. Either way, I wouldn't dignify it with a response. If it doesn't stop, and if you find it unbearable, end the relationship.

It's the flip side of, Why wouldn't you support the fashion choices of the person you love?

As long as she is able to control you, nothing will change. Deny her a few things. If she follows through on her threats, it will definitely mean that the marriage should end.

Hair style is a pretty superficial basis for love. What are you going to do when her skin gets wrinkled?

I think it's healthy to have some times like this in your life. In the long run, it will help you to identify the relationships that make your life better, and to distinguish them from those that don't.