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I'm not sure what a promise ring is going to do here? You are both young and incredibly mentally unstable, how on earth a little piece of metal going to change that?

If someone is threatening to leave constantly then they will eventually leave if you like it or not, so once they start saying they’re leaving let them leave.

He sounds manipulative and abusive. Do not give him a promise ring. Leave him and don't make it a threat.

You have got a point. I should probably focus on being more secure and stable before thinking about giving my partner a ring. I will go return it

> I ended up committing suicide cause I couldn't handle it.

Then how are you here? Do you mean "attempting"?

Anyway, you are in an abusive relationship, you aren't the problem, he is. LEAVE. No matter how much a manipulates you into thinking you are the problem, he is in fact the problem. The only sollution is to leave, in whatever way you can safely do so.

THIS ISN'T LOVE THIS IS TOXIC CODEPENDENCY AND EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION! The reason you can't imagine your life without him is because you are losing who you are as a person to this relationship. You are breaking yourself down to fit into his life. Who he tells you you are is not who you are and you need to get out of this relationship. Not give a promise ring that mentally puts you deeper in this shit. You both would be better off separately.

don’t give him the promise ring. he’s a jerk.

Don't give him anything

Find someone who wants to be with you.

This sounds very toxic and unhealthy. You deserve better than this and can absolutely find it.

You're the one choosing to stay with someone who doesn't love or respect you. You're the only one who can make better choices here.

Jesus Christ this got more and more toxic as I kept reading. You need to leave. Seriously. Your boyfriend is a pathetic excuse for a man. He has destroyed your self-confidence so much that you think he is the only one who could ever put up with you. And I say out up not love because even you should be able to see that he doesn't love you. Let me tell you what a healthy relationship looks like and then you can compare. In a healthy relationship you feel like you are with your best friend. Someone who never makes you question of you're good enough or if you're pretty enough. You just feel safe, comfortable and like the prettiest girl on earth when you're in his presence, because he's attracted to you and let's you know, even when your hair is messy and your sweater has a stain. He's the one you go to first when something made you happy and he's the one you go to for comfort. He doesn't threaten or manipulate, he works things out and communicates. He sees you as an equal and doesn't give you orders or ultimatums. Being with him makes your life better, you don't need him because you're happy alone, but him being there is like the cherry on top. If you cannot relate to any of what i just wrote it's because you're not in a healthy relationship. You are destroying yourself by being with him. Leave.

You sound extremely young. This isn’t healthy. Please take everyone’s advice and move on.

bro. run.

This sounds extremely toxic. I recommend leaving and getting therapy.