borzoiutrecht t1_iyf69tl wrote
Im so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better than what you were given and it’s absolutely no excuse on your fathers end to have acted in that way.
Now that you are an adult though, there is nothing your father can do going forward to remedy the damage done. That is going to be your responsibility. I know this as I also had an abusive father and I still maintain communication with him.
Go to therapy, put in the leg work, write about it, and learn to accept what’s happened. It sounds harsh but that is the best thing you can do for yourself. You need to allow the hurt child that lives in you to rest. After that, if you can and feel comfortable initiating a conversation about it, go for it.
Pester_Goblin7123 OP t1_iyf6jb5 wrote
Thank you, I’ve been doing what I can without professional help but it’s not much. And I don’t think it’s harsh, it’s what I do need to hear though.
borzoiutrecht t1_iyf746n wrote
Things to do you can help yourself is journaling of course. You can write letters to the people who hurt you and really rip into them and what they did wrong, and then burn the letter. Getting adequate sleep, eating regularly, going for walks/moving your body are all things that help with mental health.
I know everyone says do these things, but they really do wonders to your mental well being. It won’t get you all the way recovered but it’ll build good habits and a foundation for when you’re able to seek professional support.
Pester_Goblin7123 OP t1_iyf7ji1 wrote
As nerdy as it sounds, I bought Hatsune Miku alarms for executive dysfunction as I struggle with taking care of myself, so I’m starting to take steps in the right direction I think. I have journaled before but I can never keep myself on top of it, mostly because I’m scared of sounding portentous in my own personal writing?? But I’ll try to pick it up again and see where it goes.
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