Just go cold on him. Don't answer his texts, don't pick up his calls. When you do talk to him, and he talks about getting back together just say "no, thank you". Nothing more to argue with

“I’m no longer interested” is more than enough information for him. No is also a complete sentence. If that isn’t a good enough answer than that itself is a good reason that the answer is no also. What I’m getting at it that you don’t need any reason, it’s your life and you get to choose who your together with.

We aren’t going to get back together.

Do you want to stay friends?

If you do,

I need to take a step back before having a friendship with you. We can’t be friends while you are insistent on winning me back

>I got hurt because he keeps saying he loves me and will have me back

I mean, sure, but unless he's stupid he knows that's not a sure thing. Like maybe he's just trying to prepare to move on in case you shut things down, which you're apparently about to.

But whatever. You're not feeling it anymore. That's all the reason you need to give.

I would recommend just telling him that you've realised you don't want to date him again and have decided to move on. And if he asks why, just say that you have moved on.

You don't have to say what you found, you don't have to say anything, he doesn't need a specific reason, because deciding to move on is a reason.

It didn't work, you don't want to try again. Done.

But if you don't tell him something, he's going to keep trying. I think it's kinder to both of you, to say something. Over message is fine, you don't need to call or anything, and you don't need to block or be unkind or whatever. You've decided to move on.

Just block him. You mistake was trying to stay friends with your ex.

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Honestly, flirting online when you are single is harmless fun. Also, you arent giving him the attention he wants, but you maintain that you are open to fixing the relationship, its gotta be a bit confusing to him having to deal with this.

Now, I understand how you feel, but if you are as open to fixing things as he is, I would ask him about her and let him explain himself before you just dissappear.