Her dumping her every thought and issue on you is trauma dumping and you may have created a trauma bond thinking that this sharing was because of a genuine connection, vulnerability and intimacy. Thing is she’s indiscriminate and will do this to anyone who sticks around long enough to listen. You are watching her emotional state unravel and you want to stick around and figure her out, thing is there’z nothing to figure out because she’a not behaving rationally. She’s also putting you in an impossible position by dragging her into her bad decision making by making you her confidant that she’s disappearing from her own life to go back to her abusive ex. There’s no sense in that!

FWIW, I don’t think this is a secret you should keep. She’s putting herself in danger. Being a danger to yourself or others is the literal criteria to be committed for psychiatric care

He wants protections from divorce. Has he researched what happens in the event of a medical crisis and death? Life insurance, inheritance, probate? There are legal protections being married provides and it’s useful for y’all to cover all the bases

We aren’t going to get back together.

Do you want to stay friends?

If you do,

I need to take a step back before having a friendship with you. We can’t be friends while you are insistent on winning me back

None of this reads platonic and I’m a believer in platonic relationships