My girlfriend [26F] still text her situationship of 4 months but when I [24M] confronted her she said it's okay because they never slept together or do intimate stuff.

Submitted by Tasty_Ad6111 t3_z92309 in relationship_advice

My girlfriend seems to be attached to her situationship emotionally and even though they never slept together it still makes me feel jealous that she sometime send him a text. She let me go through all of their old text and it really seems like they're more of a best friend rather than a fling but somehow this doesn't sit right with me that my girlfriend still has attachment to someone she only know for few months.

She decided to told me this right before she said she love me and it's something she wants me to know because she thinks he will be part of her life from now on as her friend and that they never do anything sexual apart from kissing. I said that's ok at first because I was overwhelmed by many things at that moments but now that I have time to process I feel this weird gut feeling that won't go away. I don't think it's selfish that I want her to cut him off completely which seems like she might say no to.

0

Comments

You must log in or register to comment.

AutoModerator t1_iyej6um wrote

Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our rules here. We'd like to take this time to remind users that:

  • We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors

  • Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)

  • No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.

  • All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass.

  • What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. This is not an all-inclusive list.

If you have any questions, please send us a modmail.

#This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

1

dancing_chinese_kid t1_iyejord wrote

Is she spending time alone with him? Is she hiding her conversations with him? Does she talk about her relationship with you with him?

I think the idea of telling her to cut him entirely out of her life is out of line, but there should be very open conversations about what their relationship is. What does HE want the relationship to be?

1

Tasty_Ad6111 OP t1_iyekcde wrote

From the way their convo goes, there's no flirting from both side. But it still feels weird to me

1

Distinct-Practice131 t1_iyejvpa wrote

What the heck is a situationship? And why is she kissing him?

1

Tasty_Ad6111 OP t1_iyek0s9 wrote

They dated causally basically but no sex

1

Distinct-Practice131 t1_iyelgab wrote

Is she still kissing him tho? Cause it sounds like it possibly? And that would be a red flag for me .

1

Tasty_Ad6111 OP t1_iyetd9a wrote

No I don't think so, she just told me the furthest they goes is kissing in their relationship

1

Owencrewroad t1_iyelj9i wrote

I'm 60, I had 10 relationships, 2 marriages, and 2 divorce , so I've had a lot of experience. From what I read, she appears to have gone to great lengths to tell you what happened. I've been were you are in my younger days. Would ask questions of my girlfriends about the past relationships, this was a bad idea and it honestly was none of my business. The mind I'd a great thing and a terrible thing. After I was told something about my girlfriend past my mind would think of the worst, as you get older you will find this less of a problem. After I had experienced the worst, I decided this. Everything I started a new relationship I told my girlfriend " What you did in the past is your business and I DON'T want to know about, and the same applies to her.

Maybe you can meet her friend

1