Gosc101 t1_iy89bcj wrote on November 29, 2022 at 2:21 PM

At least you don't have children, this would be nightmare. Have you thought what are you going to do?

myWholeWifeIsaLie OP t1_iy8asyb wrote on November 29, 2022 at 2:32 PM

I know oh my god. Well I'm in a masters program so I'm doing well with that. And a friend who can help me out if I decide to move out.

I'm just processing because it's a big deal. And I don't want to make rash decisions

Gosc101 t1_iy8bdjh wrote on November 29, 2022 at 2:37 PM

You are right to want to proceed slowly. Should you plan divorce you should contact lawyer asap. Another thing is I imagine your wife will make attempts to sweet talk you back. Btw was it her that you finally got this information from? I ask not just to pry, but because I want to know if it's a confirmed thing.

myWholeWifeIsaLie OP t1_iy8c3ze wrote on November 29, 2022 at 2:43 PM

yea

[deleted] t1_iyaahe4 wrote on November 29, 2022 at 10:29 PM

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breath-2 t1_iy8pbr6 wrote on November 29, 2022 at 4:17 PM

Sry to wat happened to u and cheating is cheating I would separate from my gf if I was u but am not and u can make ur choice but do remember u r young u can still find love and loyalty. Hope things go well for u.

Ps,,,,just my curiosity is ur name a current one if so good one

EjjabaMarie t1_iya67d3 wrote on November 29, 2022 at 9:59 PM

Maybe take your friend up on the offer to get some space to decompress and think. It must be hard being in the same house with her even if you are sleeping in the couch.

Also, if you decide to stay in your home, she should take the couch and you get the bed. It’s her fuck up after all.

Sorry you’re dealing with this.

No-Net8938 t1_iybe57k wrote on November 30, 2022 at 3:24 AM

INFORMATION PLEASE:

OP, you say your wife admitted she lied about having a relationship Prior to you, because she never actually had a relationship before you. When did she have an affair? Did some of your post get deleted?

WHERE does it say she cheated? You only say you believe there is more she is not telling you.

You keep being asked this, but you refuse to answer. I am not trying to be rude.

sydmistercheer t1_iyblfs8 wrote on November 30, 2022 at 4:27 AM

That’s crazy you’re getting annoyed that he’s “refusing to answer”!! He said she cheated and is asking for advice on how to proceed, he doesn’t owe anyone all the juicy details. Why do you wanna know so badly?

No-Net8938 t1_iybnbj9 wrote on November 30, 2022 at 4:44 AM

Where in his post does he say that she cheats? I am not the only one asking about this. I do not want the juicy or stale details, but I am Not seeing in the post anywhere that the wife admits to cheating, an incident of cheating, or him saying anything except, I know there is more she is not telling.

I was not trying to be rude. I even asked if some of the post got deleted. Unlike some I do not offer advice until the facts are in the post or comments. The fact the OP refuses to address any questions regarding the lack of information in the post is beginning to feel like looking under a bridge.

I am sorry if I have missed something, but I checked his comments and read his post multiple times. It is disjointed and sorely lacking. If his entire supposition is she cheated because she admitted to being a virgin and he was her first and only boyfriend then it sounds like paranoia and he needs some professional help not Reddit.

Best wishes for your evolution and edification.

Agape 💕

MAFFACisTrue t1_iychuxd wrote on November 30, 2022 at 11:17 AM

Agreed. I commented about this same thing 6 hours before you did.

It's bizarre actually! I thought I was going nuts reading OP's post several times and not seeing that she cheated.

Guess people just read the "title" and automatically assumed she did. Lol

[deleted] t1_iybxrtg wrote on November 30, 2022 at 6:34 AM