Title! Found our husband of 7 years and two toddler had an affair. He knows it’s my non negotiable and worst nightmare as my own parents divorced when my dad had an affair with a coworker as well. It was discussed and made clear MANY TIMES. We had issues - he think I wasn’t “the girl he married”, not as fun. But I’m like dude - I had two kids, now 2 and 4, with 0 family support (I’m an expat), and I still think I was pretty damn good. Why does he keep telling me I’m a good mother ? It doesn’t feel like a compliment but I can’t explain why. I haven’t worked in 5 years - classic case . 7 year itch. Dependant woman who devotes own life to his career. Find affair right before Xmas. I’m grossed out by how completely basic all this is. And I can’t stop crying . While looking after 2 tiny kids. This was an affair over many weeks with coworker I had to discover on my own, not a confession .