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Grapefruitloaf t1_j2aws9c wrote

Turn it OFF. If your mom can lie about Turning it on, you can absolutely lie about Turning it off everytime. Also do not be ashamed. So what if you masterbate? It's completely healthy and normal. Your mother should be ashamed. If she dares to mention it, tell her how gross and creepy it is that she filmed it. You're an adult. Act like one.

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ReallyEmbarrassed12 t1_j2axwhz wrote

Replying to Grapefruitloaf (#1,198,813)

I will turn it off but I don't know how to get to the footage, I'll have to mess around and check.

Thank you, you're right I should probably be a bit more assertive but I'm genuinely scared of her reaction to this particular situation. Anything else I would be able to be super honest with her but this is harder because I'm hoping I'm being paranoid but she can make me feel confused so I feel like I'm losing my mind at the moment lol

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Void-splain t1_j2ay9j3 wrote

>she's always been weird about me locking doors to the point she ripped the lock off my own door. I remember she even unlocked my phone to secretly block a boy I was texting and in general has shamed me about topics surrounding stuff like this, not to mention SO MUCH other shit.

How long until you move out? Get out of there.

In the meantime, disable the camera permanently. You're not beholden to anything she recorded. If she brings anything up, it's a violation of your privacy. State that! "I'm not talking about this, you violated my privacy. Erase all that footage."

If you feel it's necessary, you could threaten legal action.

In the meantime keep your head down and focus on putting your time in to move out and get healthy boundaries

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