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Calling what you have a “boyfriend” is a stretch. I interact more with the multi factor authentication system for work than you do with your “boyfriend”.

Yes our relationship has been as good as dead for a couple of years but he still wanted me to stay at least until he tried to better himself, which he is now. I wish I had broken up with him way sooner. Now it's too late. I don't want him to die

You’re a piece of shit. Is it that hard to break up with someone before starting to date someone else?

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We are not dating but yeah I know.

6 hour phones calls every day for a month with someone whose said they like you and you like them back is dating

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You are not responsible for someone else's depression and suicidal thoughts. You cannot be the only reason a person has to live. This is NOT on you if he decides to end his life.

You don't have to tell him you met someone new. That's irrelevant to the fact that you have wanted to end this relationship for awhile but he has emotionally blackmailed you into staying by threatening to end his life if you leave. Telling him you have already moved on is an unnecessary hurt.

End it cleanly, don't let him beg or threaten you into staying in a relationship that is going nowhere. If you have a way to contact his parents, maybe let them know so they can help support him through the break-up. Then block him on everything so he can't try to bully you back into a relationship. He will get through it. If he does choose to go through with his threats, please know that this is not on you.

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Thank you so much. I do know how to contact his mother I'm quite close to her. I have thought about telling her I wanted to end things with him but the thing is, she has severe depression too and she takes everything really bad and personally. She might feel responsible for some things, which i would hate

Listen, it's not okay at all that your boyfriend has threatened to kill himself in the past when you have tried to end the relationship. No doubt, he needs help and you alone cannot fix him and shouldn't be responsible for doing so.

That being said, you are not innocent. I have no respect for cheaters, personally. I see zero excuse for it whatsoever. Even in this post. So yes. You need to break up with your boyfriend properly if you are going to move onto a romantic relationship with this other person. You are cheating on your boyfriend and he doesn't deserve that, just like you don't deserve to be trapped in a relationship out of the fear of him ending his life.

You're right. He really doesn't deserve this

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You can't control how other people will respond. Even without the depression she would likely take the break-up badly because no parent wants to see their child in pain. Plus she was probably relying on you to care for him once they are no longer able. Don't tell her about the break-up until after you have done it, that wouldn't be fair to your bf to find out from his mother that she knew. And seriously think about blocking all communication after the break-up so that they can't manipulate you back into a relationship. Plus it would give them false hope that you might change your mind. Good luck