You could reply that you find that his treatment of you is condescending and disrespectful and you do not owe anyone respect. Respect is earned and he isn't anywhere close to receiving that from you. I think your father is angry because you rebuff his attempts to communicate with you. Tell him you still aren't ready to talk to him and his approach is making you not want to try. Tell him to not communicate with you until a future date like your next birthday and you will try to have a conversation if you can.

Have you been to therapy? It might help you.