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Mountain_Monitor_262 t1_j2cyuak wrote

You probably haven’t been direct enough with him. Send him a lengthy text of everything he did wrong, things he sucks at, and that you don’t care for him being in your life. Put everything that annoys him in that message. He has the nerve to call you immature. He handled his mid life crisis by leaving his family for a 20 something year old girl and abused you to impress his new toy (her). Sounds like your dad doesn’t understand mature so you would need to explain things at his level.

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Admirable_Share_5843 t1_j2e6xtx wrote

That’s laughable. He knows but doesn’t care what he wants but only what he feels is owed to him. Don’t be naive to dysfunctional parental dynamics and their amazing ability to be willfully in denial.

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Mountain_Monitor_262 t1_j2et7qn wrote

Of course his dad has his own fictional scenario in his head. The dad hears the words and it goes out the other ear. That’s why he needs to put it in writing even though his dad denies it. It’s a reminder of what an AH he is. Sending a direct message was the kind, reasonable method. OP could post a letter to his dad on SM with all this instead.

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Admirable_Share_5843 t1_j2ewni4 wrote

It would not matter as long be dealt with this personally myself and you tell them in any and all ways and they still “won’t know why”. It’s because they do not want to know and just want you (OP in this case) to do what they want to do and to hell with what you want or need.

So OP should just stop playing their game and drop the rope and move on.

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