You’re not ready because he’s not the man for you. He’s 37. He is who is he. He’s not going to magically become the partner and future spouse you want him to be. You can love him but acknowledge this isn’t the future for you.

You really should break up.

If it was flipped and he were to make a lot more money than you, would this make you try harder to match him or would that be fine with you? Most women want a men who is more successful then themselves and earns more money. It is totally natural. However don't say its about both providing half....

You tell him that he should not propose because you do not want to get married to him and if you are honest you should actually break up and give him the chance to find a partner that is more suited to what he wishes for.

You expressed your concerns, and he kept pushing his original deadline. That's a sign he's trying to lock you down so that when he doesn't change it's harder for you to leave.

Come on he is 37 and has never had a real job! This man is going nowhere fast do you want to carry him for the rest of your life?

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