Submitted by Aggravating-Money117 t3_10q2wg9 in relationship_advice

Not sure if this is the right subreddit, please direct me to another one and I apologize in advance.

My [20F] boyfriend [21M] has lost over 80lbs. He only eats once a day, and goes to the gym almost everyday, sometimes twice. Recently, he said he has been gaining weight (his words not mine, to me he is so healthy, so handsome before weight loss and after). He doesn’t even look like he gained weight, he looks so healthy and handsome but he doesn’t believe me and he has been really depressed with how he looks. For me, I don’t really go to the gym and I eat a lot of korean bbq, fried food etc.I usually choose date night too but I want to chose better and healthier options now for him and me! I really want to help him feel better about himself because when I look at him I see someone so handsome, so strong but also so dedicated, hardworking, driven and disciplined. I have decided to cut back heavily eating out, and look at some healthier alternatives now like instead of going to usually our go to korean fried chicken place we’re looking at to make more meals at home! I just want to help him feel better about himself, and I notice he tends to beat himself up a lot (our date nights are once a week). I was wondering what I can do to help him feel better, and if anyone could recommend me a good meal preparation recipes under $30-40 (still a student!). He also has a 9-5 job and lately has been getting a lot of take out, so I wanna help him out and make him feel good. I have also been looking at healthier snacks like rice crackers, but if anyone can recommend me some that would be helpful.

Thanks.

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SugarGoated1 t1_j6nj9tc wrote

Validate how he feels. Recognize and tell him you hear him. Also support him and encourage him at the same time.

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WeeklyConversation8 t1_j6no0g6 wrote

He needs to know that muscle weighs more than fat. He also needs to eat more than once a day in order for his body to be able to function and to support his working out. Look at body builders. They don't eat only once a day. He can get a personal trainer who will help him navigate this and support him. In addition to you.

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