MckittenMan t1_j6nxg58 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:50 PM

Personally, I would consider that break up worthy.

Its the dishonesty for me. The finances in a relationship is something that needs transparency.

He told you he made x amount, saved x amount, from that you went:

>Together we can afford xyz, we can get by without struggle, and progress financially into a future.
>
>It would be safe for me invest into this romantic relationship

He led you into a false sense of security to win you over. Once the truth revealed, your original perception was shattered.

Now its... I make significantly less, have no savings, no desire to progress career... And because you emotionally invested in me, we're getting married. Support me. I locked you in.

When you think about it... It comes off like a trap.

I wouldn't be able to trust my partner for it. That would be a nail in the coffin for me.

Friendly_Sir6523 t1_j6o1tpn wrote on January 31, 2023 at 6:16 PM

Thank you very much for the breakdown. I hadn't thought of what his intentions could be, which makes sense now. It's such a shame because he is a kind and caring guy but it's the lie for me. At the start of our relationship, l explained how honesty was very important to me which he had now broken. And if he could lie about finances , what else could he lie about.