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MckittenMan t1_j6nxg58 wrote

Personally, I would consider that break up worthy.

Its the dishonesty for me. The finances in a relationship is something that needs transparency.

He told you he made x amount, saved x amount, from that you went:

>Together we can afford xyz, we can get by without struggle, and progress financially into a future.
>
>It would be safe for me invest into this romantic relationship

He led you into a false sense of security to win you over. Once the truth revealed, your original perception was shattered.

Now its... I make significantly less, have no savings, no desire to progress career... And because you emotionally invested in me, we're getting married. Support me. I locked you in.

When you think about it... It comes off like a trap.

I wouldn't be able to trust my partner for it. That would be a nail in the coffin for me.

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Friendly_Sir6523 t1_j6o1tpn wrote

Thank you very much for the breakdown. I hadn't thought of what his intentions could be, which makes sense now. It's such a shame because he is a kind and caring guy but it's the lie for me. At the start of our relationship, l explained how honesty was very important to me which he had now broken. And if he could lie about finances , what else could he lie about.

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trishsf t1_j6ntvyp wrote

A year? That’s not enough for one person to survive.

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univornpineapple t1_j6nvb6n wrote

Honestly it sounds like you shouldn’t be together. Not to be that redditor that’s like “ break up immediately” but it seems like what both of y’all want don’t align. He’s probably embarrassed that you out earn him which could be why he lied about his salary. From what I’ve read it sounds like you want someone who’s career oriented or a high earner, you should look for someone like that. He doesn’t seems to be that and there’s no use to try to coach him into it.

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FantasticFly8666 t1_j6nvhga wrote

That’s a very small amount of money for a 28 year old man and the dishonesty is very weird

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schecter_ t1_j6ovy82 wrote

The problem in here is the fact that He has been constantly lying. I wouldn't buy anything with him.

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