My bf (25M) and i (f22) are barely having s*x and it is beacuse of me

Submitted by [deleted] t3_10q7tln in relationship_advice

Hi

My bf (25m) and i (22F) are together for 2 years now. Our activity in the bedroom is low and this is mostly because i am most of the time not in the mood to do anything. Now I know that my bf needs it, because he already spoke to me about it. It makes him less loved. Do you guys know some tricks to get more in the mood?

TLDR; How do i get more in the mood?

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trishsf t1_j6ocebj wrote

Is the sex good? When it happens, are you completely satisfied?

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[deleted] OP t1_j6orhsa wrote

The sex is good, the thing is that somehow when i come to completion i cry, so i asked him to not give me completion anymore...but aside from that the sex is great

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trishsf t1_j6oursr wrote

Okay. Why are you crying? It’s hard if you can’t satisfy a partner because they are asking you not to. Have you talked to a therapist about this? If not, please do.

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[deleted] OP t1_j6ow1cg wrote

I talked to my therapist about it, she thinks it's because i'm overstimulated at that point and that's why it doesn't feel good for me. I know he has a hard time with the fact that he can't plaese me in that way becayse if that

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trishsf t1_j6oxjx1 wrote

If she’s not coming up with solutions then I strongly suggest finding a different therapist.

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[deleted] OP t1_j6oyamn wrote

Well it is not her specialty, so i don't know if she can really help me with that

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trishsf t1_j6p171n wrote

Which is a good reason to see someone else.

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kevinrp07 t1_j6ocawl wrote

When does he want to have sex? I know girls usually never enjoy it after heavy meals.

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