Submitted by ThrowRA-wwydiw t3_10pyvmw in relationship_advice
Before you read: I understand the age gap. I do not want advice on the age gap. I want advice on the question I have asked. Please respect my wishes. Thank you.
I’m in a tough spot. I thought my boyfriend was cheating on me. I had a couple signs like seeing a text from his ex pop up when he was in the car with me and her name had all these emojis and stuff by it. I confronted him right then and there and he said she needed help.
Here’s the backstory with her, she and him were engaged two years ago during Covid, but he ended it. She lives in Peru, and was trying to get to America and all of his friends said she was using him. He told me she was so smart but came here and refused to do anything, no school, no work, no nothing, just lazy, and that’s why he ended it. She also cheated on him and would text other guys while she was laying in bed next to him. So yeah, she sounds like a real stand up person lol.
Anyways, I was sure he was cheating on me, so I confronted him and he dropped this. He has been supporting her financially for the time being since they broke up. Now he and I have been together a year, so that was super brutal and felt like a slap in the face. I understand the situation in Peru and I feel horrible but she is not a good person and I don’t want him connected to her anymore. I feel that he still wants her, because why else would you be running to be her hero??? The sad part is for me, is that I wanted to start combining finances. I wanted to do phone plans together, iCloud, everything, come to find out he’s still doing that with her. It felt like a punch to the stomach just absolutely crushed me. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable and should be okay with him paying for her life. But I need help, I don’t know what to do. I’m crushed.
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