Well, I kind of disagree with this statement then.

>I can't ask him to change.

I think you can ask your partner to change.

When my and my GF started out, we agreed that we wanted to be the best partner possible to each-other. And that includes adapting, improving, ironing out negative characteristics, etc... all for the sake of benefiting the other.

And if we found something we couldn't do, we make an attempt at a compromise.

And for your case, a number of things I think you can request a change on.

For example:

• I always have to drag him out of bed

You doing that... is a chore to you. That is a dynamic in your relationship you don't like. A reasonable thing to address. You're not his alarm clock or Mother. He can get up out of bed on his own.

And if you found that your partner has no desire to improve the relationship, or make a more fulfilling experience to you.. then that is a good time question the relationship.

Don't be afraid of addressing what you're unhappy about. A neglect to communicate, would be contributing to the failure.